What are the Results of Jealousy in Our Life?

Last week we started talking about jealousy. If you’re like me, you might have just associated jealousy with the toxic boyfriend or person who didn’t have something they wanted, but jealousy is much more than that. 

Jealousy is a conscious decision to allow desire to drive you to doing life your own way. 

If you haven’t already checked it out, I’d encourage you to read about Jealousy: what it is, where it comes from, & how it looks.  

In this post, we are going to continue to discuss jealousy looking at the results of jealous behavior should we choose to participate, and how to avoid it.

Jealousy Defined

  1. zeal, ardor in embracing, pursuing, defending anything: 
  2. an envious and contentious rivalry, jealousy: 

Our Text

16 For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder [unrest, rebellion] and every evil thing and morally degrading practice.

James 3:16 AMP

The Results of Jealousy in Our Life

Jealousy makes friends look like enemies

What leads to [the unending] quarrels and conflicts among you? Do they not come from your [hedonistic] desires that wage war in your [bodily] members [fighting for control over you]? 

James 4:1 AMP

Notice that this book of James isn’t written to the unbelievers outside in the world.  He asks, “What leads to [the unending] quarrels and conflicts among you?” He’s talking about the Christian! 

We as Christians aren’t supposed to be infighting among ourselves. 

This is what Paul was addressing in 1 Corinthians as believers were disputing about petty things and take it to public court to be judged by unbelievers. 

5 I say this to your shame. Can it be that there is not one wise man among you who [is governed by integrity and] will be able and competent to decide [private disputes] between his fellow believers,

1 Corinthians 6:5 AMP

The infighting among believers isn’t new, but also isn’t right. The book of James clearly speaks that it’s jealousy and lust that cause this fighting. 

Jealousy leads to unending fights and quarrels

What leads to [the unending] quarrels and conflicts among you? Do they not come from your [hedonistic] desires that wage war in your [bodily] members [fighting for control over you]? 2 You are jealous and covet [what others have] and your lust goes unfulfilled; so you murder. You are envious and cannot obtain [the object of your envy]; so you fight and battle. You do not have because you do not ask [it of God].

James 4:1-2 AMP

If you find yourself in the position where nothing is ever good enough, check up on your motivations.  Are you being controlled by jealousy or covetous behavior? 

The person constantly fighting and warring to obtain things isn’t the person useful to the Lord. 

Instead this kind of person is always one step away from blowing up and isn’t satisfied with anything. 

Jealousy stops the blessings of God

3 You ask [God for something] and do not receive it, because you ask with wrong motives [out of selfishness or with an unrighteous agenda], so that [when you get what you want] you may spend it on your [hedonistic] desires.

James 4:3 AMP

Your motivations stop the blessing of God on your life.  God cannot prosper a life lived completely for selfish reasons. 

We were built to worship God with our actions and to be the example in character of Christ to others in this world.  

God cannot bless a person fully living for selfish reasons because it would cause them more harm than good. 

Jealousy removes your focus from God and onto people

4 You adulteresses [disloyal sinners—flirting with the world and breaking your vow to God]! Do you not know that being the world’s friend [that is, loving the things of the world] is being God’s enemy? So whoever chooses to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.

James 4:4 AMP

Jealousy is a motivation issue.  It starts in the heart. 

  • Are you a person whose primary motivation is self? 
  • Are you looking for the next thing you want? 
  • Is your thought process continuously on doing God’s thing your way?

If so, you’re in a dangerous position. Jealousy clouds your motivations and thought process.   

How to Remove Jealousy

James is very clear in the following verses how to remove this kind of jealousy from your life. 

6 But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.

7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

8 Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.

James 4:6-8 KJV

There are three things each of us must do to remove jealousy from our lives. These three things work together to shift us from a place of self dependent to dependent on God.

  1. Humble yourselves
  2. Submit yourselves
  3. Draw near to God

Humble yourselves

To humble yourself simply means to choose to do life God’s way. The humble person is someone completely submitted unto God and doing things HIS way. 

You operate in humility not by saying, “Oh I’m just a nobody.  I have no worth.” In fact, that’s the exact opposite!  Jesus died on the cross for you so if you’re saying you have no worth then you’re calling Jesus a liar!

For more on this check out What is pride? 

Submit Yourselves

This goes right along with the humbling process. Now that you’ve decided to do it God’s way you submit yourself to actually carrying out whatever he asks. 

Draw Near To God

To draw near to God requires specific set apart time where you meet with you and the Lord privately.  This isn’t a time in between TV commercials or while scrolling through social media.  This is dedicated and intentional time to say, “Yes God I will listen and submit myself to You.” 

Wrapping Up

Today we just took an even deeper dive into this concept of jealousy.  I hope that as you see this post you are encouraged to root out any form of jealousy or selfish ambition and fully submit your plans and desires to the Lord. 

It’s not about the things, the appearance of success or even the lives changed by following God.  

If your motivation in life isn’t, “Lord I will do whatever it takes to please you and if that means cleaning toilets forever then so be it.” 

If that isn’t your motivation, then you aren’t in the right place. 

True humility focuses only on what the Lord wants. 

Jesus the Giver of Peace

Maybe as you read this post you identified with some of these points.  Maybe your life has been affected by jealousy and selfish ambition.  I encourage you to come to Jesus.  He desires to have a real relationship with you. 

He actually (whether you know it or not) came to earth to take your place in bearing the consequences for your sins. 

I know personally that the freedom Jesus gives is better than anything I could ever imagine. 

Jesus died, was buried and rose again from the grave to purchase your freedom from the controlling forces of jealousy and other sins like it. 

Today if you desire to be free from jealousy and the consequences of it, all you have to do is believe in your heart and confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord.  He will enter your life and reveal Himself to you, changing your life. 

Prayer of Dedication to the Lord

Lord I dedicate my life to You today.  Jesus come into my life and make me new. I believe you took the consequences of my sin on the cross. I believe that you are the Lord over all, and above all else I believe that you are my Lord. My wishes and desires I lay down and take up your new life.  Make me whole and cleanse me from all unrighteousness. 

In Jesus Name

Prayer of Dedication to the Lord
What are the results of jealousy in our life?